The excitement never ends . . .
As I mentioned in my last post, on Wednesday we contacted our social worker’s supervisor with our concerns, given that our worker never bothered to respond to our letter. (You know, it occurs to me that this woman needs a name . . . let’s call her Mia, given that she’s been M.I.A. for most of our relationship.) Anyway, about two hours after sending the e-mail to Mia’s supervisor, she got back with us. She apologized profusely for the lack of effort on the part of one of her workers. She assured me that she’d delve into our home study and make sure all of the appropriate paperwork had been sent to the state for review. She also said that from now on we should consider her our contact and that we should come to her with any questions we may have.
Needless to say, we were thrilled, both with the quick response and the fact that we now had someone “in our corner”.
Yesterday I sent her a brief e-mail with the only two questions we had . . . Was all of our paperwork now at the state office? And would there be something sent to the state office informing them that Mia is no longer our contact person?
Again she responded right away.
As to the first question, she said that she’d sat down and reviewed our file with Mia and that “all of (our) paperwork would be sent (yesterday) and then the state would have everything”.
On April 21st, I found out quite by accident that none of our foster/adopt class paperwork was sent with our home study. We’re talking a 3"+ stack of forms, questionnaires, and homework. I got in touch with Mia immediately and uncharacteristically, she e-mailed back right away, admitted that she did not send it , but said that she’d get it in the mail the same day – April 21st. In fact, I have two e-mails from her to that effect.
If we’re reading her supervisor’s letter correctly, she never sent it. Our home study sat incomplete for a second month while she didn’t do a thing about it.
I can’t tell you how outraged I am. Who does this woman think she is? I don’t care how busy or overworked you are. Do your damned job or go find another one! I truly have no idea how she retains her job.
As to our second question about whether the state would be informed that Mia was no longer handling our case, the supervisor said that her name would be on the paperwork that went out yesterday and that communication from the state office should go to both her and Mia.
Ummmm, no. We want nothing to do with Mia in any way, shape, or form. We do not trust her as far as we can throw her across the yard. She has continuously let us down, ignored us, and deceived us. No thank you.
My easy going, difficult-to-anger husband is quite frankly pissed. He sent an e-mail to the supervisor last night requesting clarification on whether Mia sent the April 21st paperwork or not. There’s been a little bit of dancing around the issue. We want a yes or no. Additionally, he reiterated that we do not wish to work with Mia is any capacity – that we want another worker. He then requested that the supervisor contact him at his work # at her earliest convenience to discuss these issues.
So as you see, in the past couple of days I’ve experienced the highest high, feeling like we finally, FINALLY had some help. Then to discover the next day that our home study has been sitting incomplete in the state office for two full months . . . I can’t even describe it. It hit me really hard. I guess I just didn’t see that coming.
Yesterday I was livid. I went for a drive to calm down and was feeling better until I drove past a father and son playing catch in their front yard. I was livid all over again.
Today I’m feeling tentative in that fluttery-stomach way, waiting for O to hear from the supervisor. If they tell us we have to work with Mia, I think there’s a good chance that we will walk away.
So we wait . . . we’re getting pretty good at that.
P.S. Looks like we'll be waiting a bit longer. O just called the supervisor. She's out of the office, on vacation until Wednesday.
