I don’t know whether no news is good news . . . or just no news.
I sent J a note yesterday morning asking if she knew when the child’s worker would be speaking with the foster parents. Haven’t heard a thing. She’s great about responding in a timely manner so I’d expect to get an e-mail today.
Our guess is that if they choose not to keep the child, visits in our home will begin quickly. If that’s the case, we will be thrown into a “child-proofing frenzy”.
The child has some behavioral problems. We’ve been given quite a bit of information, have done some research, and have talked ourselves silly, but until we can spend some actual time with her, we simply can’t know if those behaviors are something we feel capable of dealing with or whether she’d be better suited to another home.
I have met one of the foster parents – heard her talk about this child and how much they hoped TPR would be done so she and her husband could adopt. Knowing what I do, I’m guessing they keep her. If they don’t, that sends us a pretty clear message about just how challenging this little one might be.
I’ve been praying about this situation and have simply asked God for this:
If this isn’t supposed to be our child, then please make that clear to us in the least painful way possible. Let there be roadblocks between us and her so that we have no doubt.
If this IS supposed to be our child, then please remove the roadblocks, clear our minds of some of our concerns, and equip us to take on this little girl and her challenges and create the best life for her that we possibly can.
